gratitude essay

Gratitude Essay

As I prayed and thought about the post for today I wondered just how many ways, how many times can we write about being thankful? I thought I would start out with gratitude this week. What it is, and what it is not.

In researching the internet, you know the ever faithful “Google”. I find that there is a trend going around called “Positive Psychology.” I thought I would include some of what I found in this gratitude essay.

What is gratitude?

One article I found from Positive Psychology Program listed some definitions of gratitude that I thought may help us understand this elusive feeling. I know we all want the feel good, happy, pleasant feelings all the time and sometimes it seems they are so far away. So, let’s just see just how science today defines gratitude:

“if we acquire a good through exchange, effort or achievement, or by right, then we don’t typically feel gratitude. Gratitude is an emotion we feel in response to receiving something good which is undeserved” (Lacewing, 2016).

I like this definition because it seems to match the Bible. God gives us what we do not deserve. All of us here on earth are sinful, we do not deserve the strength, the health, or even to be alive. We do not deserve the hope of heaven. We deserve hell if anything.

Another definition for this gratitude essay is:

“an emotion that is typically evoked when one receives costly, unexpected, and intentionally rendered benefits, and is thought to play a key role in regulating the initiation and maintenance of social relationships” (Forster et al., 2017).

What happens when someone gives you something or does something you never expected? Does that help you feel good for that person? I may be struggling with this a bit though. I tend to let history cloud my gratitude when someone who has hurt me does something nice.

gratitude essay
an open book

I tend to use my marriage as an example a bit much lately. But it is what is on my mind all the time. I am trying to let God teach me to be the wife my husband deserves, and let God do the work He needs to do in my husband. But, here is an example of the past clouding my gratitude.

My personal experience for this gratitude essay

Just recently my husband bought me a coffee from a local coffee shop. Automatically my thoughts of the many times that he would insist on buying the expensive coffees when we are broke came to mind. The hurt, the fear of how we are going to make it.

What did not come to mind is all the times I expressed to him I needed more than just physical love from him. I needed to be appreciated, loved for who I am. I did not express gratitude that he thought of me, only me in buying that coffee. I let my hurt and pain stay and cloud my judgment.

That attitude did not help our relationship. My husband was making a grand gesture that he could do with our circumstances. I stopped myself I looked at him and said, “What I should say to you is thank you very much, I really appreciate that you thought of me.”

Final thoughts for this gratitude essay

You see, it is so easy to lose sight of being thankful. Even when a person is trying their hardest to do something nice. Something to say I know you are hurting let me do this to try to make up for it. Yes, ok a bought coffee will not make up for everything. But it is a step. I need to make a step in learning to be grateful instead of letting the past hold us back.

What about you? Do you have trouble expressing gratitude when someone you are upset with does something nice? Please share your ideas with us! Would love to have you join our community and join the discussion in our Thankful Thursday group!

Outside sources

Essay on Gratitude#1 Essay on Gratitude Towards Parents. Gratitude is one of the most underestimated ways anyone can use to enrich their lives. It is the feeling and attitude of …
Billy Graham: How to Be Thankful in All ThingsNov 21, 2017  But even so, we all have much to be thankful for. Look with me at … A spirit of thanksgiving is always the mark of a joyous Christian. Why should …
10 Things You Can Be Thankful For Today | CruWe’re told in 1 Thessalonians 5:18 to give thanks in everything. … I know that I have been made right with You because of my faith in Your Son, Jesus Christ. 2.
How To Be Truly Thankful- 4 Tips to Develop Christian Gratitude …Nov 4, 2017  Do you feel it? There’s almost an unspoken pressure in the realm of Christian social media circles to be thankful for each day you have on earth …
4 Reasons We Can Be Thankful in Times of TroubleNov 23, 2017  As Christians we can be thankful that we are children of the sovereign Lord. Even when our life seems to be spinning out of control, we can trust …
30 Christian Quotes about ThankfulnessNov 14, 2016  1 Thing Christians Forget to be Thankful For – Why would I be thankfulfor these things? These horrible, depressing times of life? Because one …
5 things to be thankful for no matter what“In everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” 1 Thessalonians 5:18. What is so special about thankfulness is that thoughts like …
Why is giving thanks to God important?First Thessalonians 5:18 says, “In everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” We are to be thankful not only for the things we like, but for …
The Power of a Thankful HeartNov 18, 2015  “Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus” – (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18).
Amazon.com: Enmeng Womens Blessed Thankful Printed T-Shirt …Buy Enmeng Womens Blessed Thankful Printed T-Shirt Casual Thanksgiving ChristianTee Tops: Shop top fashion brands T-Shirts at Amazon.com ✓ FREE …

gratitude

Gratitude Essay

As I prayed and thought about the post for today I wondered just how many ways, how many times can we write about being thankful? I thought I would start out with gratitude this week. What it is, and what it is not.

In researching the internet, you know the ever faithful “Google”. I find that there is a trend going around called “Positive Psychology.” I thought I would include some of what I found in this gratitude essay.

What is gratitude?

One article I found from Positive Psychology Program listed some definitions of gratitude that I thought may help us understand this elusive feeling. I know we all want the feel good, happy, pleasant feelings all the time and sometimes it seems they are so far away. So, let’s just see just how science today defines gratitude:

“if we acquire a good through exchange, effort or achievement, or by right, then we don’t typically feel gratitude. Gratitude is an emotion we feel in response to receiving something good which is undeserved” (Lacewing, 2016).

I like this definition because it seems to match the Bible. God gives us what we do not deserve. All of us here on earth are sinful, we do not deserve the strength, the health, or even to be alive. We do not deserve the hope of heaven. We deserve hell if anything.

Another definition for this gratitude essay is:

“an emotion that is typically evoked when one receives costly, unexpected, and intentionally rendered benefits, and is thought to play a key role in regulating the initiation and maintenance of social relationships” (Forster et al., 2017).

What happens when someone gives you something or does something you never expected? Does that help you feel good for that person? I may be struggling with this a bit though. I tend to let history cloud my gratitude when someone who has hurt me does something nice.

gratitude essay
a book opened to where the subheading says of Gifting, first line under that says way of expressing gratitude
an open book

I tend to use my marriage as an example a bit much lately. But it is what is on my mind all the time. I am trying to let God teach me to be the wife my husband deserves, and let God do the work He needs to do in my husband. But, here is an example of the past clouding my gratitude.

My personal experience for this gratitude essay

Just recently my husband bought me a coffee from a local coffee shop. Automatically my thoughts of the many times that he would insist on buying the expensive coffees when we are broke came to mind. The hurt, the fear of how we are going to make it.

What did not come to mind is all the times I expressed to him I needed more than just physical love from him. I needed to be appreciated, loved for who I am. I did not express gratitude that he thought of me, only me in buying that coffee. I let my hurt and pain stay and cloud my judgment.

That attitude did not help our relationship. My husband was making a grand gesture that he could do with our circumstances. I stopped myself I looked at him and said, “What I should say to you is thank you very much, I really appreciate that you thought of me.”

Final thoughts for this gratitude essay

You see, it is so easy to lose sight of being thankful. Even when a person is trying their hardest to do something nice. Something to say I know you are hurting let me do this to try to make up for it. Yes, ok a bought coffee will not make up for everything. But it is a step. I need to make a step in learning to be grateful instead of letting the past hold us back.

What about you? Do you have trouble expressing gratitude when someone you are upset with does something nice? Please share your ideas with us! Would love to have you join our community and join the discussion in our Thankful Thursday group!

Outside sources

Essay on Gratitude

#1 Essay on Gratitude Towards Parents. Gratitude is one of the most underestimated ways anyone can use to enrich their lives. It is the feeling and attitude of …
Billy Graham: How to Be Thankful in All Things

Nov 21, 2017  But even so, we all have much to be thankful for. Look with me at … A spirit of thanksgiving is always the mark of a joyous Christian. Why should …
10 Things You Can Be Thankful For Today | Cru

We’re told in 1 Thessalonians 5:18 to give thanks in everything. … I know that I have been made right with You because of my faith in Your Son, Jesus Christ. 2.
How To Be Truly Thankful- 4 Tips to Develop Christian Gratitude …

Nov 4, 2017  Do you feel it? There’s almost an unspoken pressure in the realm of Christian social media circles to be thankful for each day you have on earth …
4 Reasons We Can Be Thankful in Times of Trouble

Nov 23, 2017  As Christians we can be thankful that we are children of the sovereign Lord. Even when our life seems to be spinning out of control, we can trust …
30 Christian Quotes about Thankfulness

Nov 14, 2016  1 Thing Christians Forget to be Thankful For – Why would I be thankfulfor these things? These horrible, depressing times of life? Because one …
5 things to be thankful for no matter what

“In everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” 1 Thessalonians 5:18. What is so special about thankfulness is that thoughts like …
Why is giving thanks to God important?

First Thessalonians 5:18 says, “In everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” We are to be thankful not only for the things we like, but for …
The Power of a Thankful Heart

Nov 18, 2015  “Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus” – (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18).
Amazon.com: Enmeng Womens Blessed Thankful Printed T-Shirt …

Buy Enmeng Womens Blessed Thankful Printed T-Shirt Casual Thanksgiving ChristianTee Tops: Shop top fashion brands T-Shirts at Amazon.com ✓ FREE …

PTSD Symptoms

What Are PTSD Symptoms

(This is a very old post)

A couple of weeks ago I found out I suffer from PTSD. That my trauma’s started in my youth. Don’t get me wrong, I know my parents did the best they could. My mother is a very strong woman who did her best to do right by me and the family. My father admitted and he got help for his part in it all. After all, was said and done is a wonderful man now. This is not to talk about how bad my family was, it is to talk about how everything affected me and what are PTSD symptoms.

Do you identify with this video in any way? Please know there is help out there for you and I would love to help you find that. Where it started for me is being fed up with where my marriage is at and seeking Christian counseling. That is where I learned about what are PTSD symptoms with this video:

My trauma’s started early in life when I was a toddler I met my stepdad. I am not going to go into all the details that are not needed. Just to let you know it involved exposure visual adult sexuality then few later sexual abuse. I want to remind everyone. I am not trying to say my parents are monsters. They are far from that, my mom is a strong woman who did her best to protect me with everything that was going on around her. My stepdad had an illness that after all came out he got help for. I honor them for that!

But, because I or no one around me really understood how everything affected me I was left to struggle with the after-effects of everything. Which led me to many damaging relationships with men. Rape, sexual abuse, my anger coming out as abuse towards my first husband. Sexual issues in my current marriage. One thing after another right up until recently. I have about 45 or so years of living in survival mode to try to deal with.

What Are PTSD Symptoms and How To Be Grateful For Them

what are ptsd symptoms
a drawing of a woman’s back and she is holding her hair up with her hands. Words say PTSD seriously may be the death of me. The worst part is nobody understands how hard everyday is.

How to be grateful for all of this? I never thought I would put gratefulness with everything I have been through. I never dream I could come close to finding anything to be happy about ever. I lived with depression, pain, hurt, anger, fear for so long. I never knew any different. But, I am grateful for it all!

I am grateful for the experience because God uses all our experiences to His Glory. What a powerful thing it is to be used for His Glory! The creator of the world is wanting to use me with all my sins, all my pain, all my ugliness.

I am grateful for showing me what a wonderful husband God has given me. Even though my husband may have contributed to some of my trauma God once again is using that. He is using my husband and me for something wonderful. We do not see it yet, but we know God has a plan.

If you also suffer from PTSD or think you do, please seek help, professional help. You cannot do this alone. The place that God led my husband I to is Faithful Counseling

 

Outside sources

Symptoms of PTSD | Anxiety and Depression Association of America …

PTSD is diagnosed after a person experiences symptoms for at least one month following a traumatic event. However symptoms may not appear until several …
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) – Symptoms and causes …

Jul 6, 2018  Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a mental health condition triggered by a terrifying event, causing flashbacks, nightmares and severe …
PTSD: Five effective coping strategies

Oct 20, 2017  What are some helpful ways of coping with PTSD symptoms? In this article we take a closer look at emerging strategies and effective …
PTSD: Coping, Support, and Living Well

Learning healthy strategies for coping with PTSD is possible and can offer a sense of renewal, hope and control over your life. There are a variety of areas in our …
8 Biblical Steps to Recover From Post Traumatic Stress Disorder …

Oct 9, 2014  8 Biblical Steps to Recover From Post Traumatic Stress Disorder …. Dealing with painful experiences is painful, but it is critical to healing and to the … Paul even encouraged Christians to “endure suffering along with me, as a …
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD): Symptoms, causes, and risk …

Feb 6, 2019  PTSD is triggered by a traumatic event. … By Christian Nordqvist … In addition, the symptoms must lead to distress or difficulty coping with work …
What Does God Say About PTSD? – Biblical Counseling Center

Jul 14, 2015  PTSD is a normal reaction to an abnormal situation and may have … Lindy Abbott , a Christian blogger, wife, and mother suffered abuse as a young … She told me she unknowingly used a coping skill called dissociation to …
Trauma Is Not a Life Sentence | Desiring God

Jan 5, 2017  … kind of suffering — the kind that overwhelms one’s ability to cope. … Some Christians have been trained to think that proper believers will not …
What does the Bible say about PTSD?

Did anyone in the Bible suffer with posttraumatic stress disorder? … effective copingmechanisms may contribute to whether a person develops PTSD. … Christians know the deep value God places on human life and often feel extremely guilty …
Restoring the Shattered Self: A Christian Counselor’s Guide to …

Whereas posttraumatic stress disorder is due to a single traumatic event or … has developed a distinctive Christian counseling model for dealing with this kind of …

where is God

Where is God

It has been a crazy few days. My youngest getting sick and then sharing the germs with me. Then as I check the homes for sale I find a mobile home right across the street from my in laws! Perfect spot, perfect amount of space, and some possibility of being able to afford it. But, in that all my in laws are dealing with some pretty major health issues. Things that could affect their ability to help us. My emotions have been so up and down! I started wondering where is God in all this?!

My youngest son and I are pretty much over the cold. So, God helped us through that. But, soon after that my in laws were hit with health issues. Today my mother in law is going in for a test that could determine if she needs surgery or not. Also, my father in law is having trouble controlling his blood sugar levels. He has a month to get his A1c3 down or he could lose his commercial drivers license. That is his job! His business! Their only income! Where is God in all this?! What is God’s purpose in these struggles? Could He really have faith in us to hold true to Him?

In his worry my father in law starts to worry and try to control others around him. I and my daughter came to his mind. He knows how hard it is when starting out on your own. See, when my husband and I move in together my daughter will move to her own place for the first time in her life. You can read up more on her and the situation between my husband, and her disability under the key word my testimony. This worry of my father in laws lead him to try to tell me and her what needs to be done. Which triggered my emotional reaction of having someone tell me how to parent when I have been a single parent and raised her to adulthood. Where is God in these emotions? What is God’s purpose in these interactions?

I calmed down, prayed and talked to my mother in law. For right now they both seem to understand why things cannot be done the way he wants them done. But, now this mobile home I mentioned earlier. My hope, excitement and wanting to figure out just how that home can become ours was over the top. It would mean my in laws would not need to make all the renovations on their house to accommodate us moving in. But, we would still be right there to help each other. All day yesterday my thoughts were racing, I was checking things, talking, researching. All the while trying to say ok God, I know when I try to do things I mess them up you need to do it. But still I let my emotions take my research and thoughts to areas they should not have gone. Where is God in these emotions? What is God’s purpose?

What I have learned in my studies about God is that He uses you, He wants to use even you who is reading this right now. If you are like me in situations similar to what I described above you experienced overwhelming emotions too. How can He use you in these troubling times? What I see is that as we deal with the emotions we need to lean in more, to fight more to talk to Him. If all you can do is say Praise Jesus while trying to draw on His strength to find an even keel then do that. Once you find that center on God, is where He can use you.

where is God
A forest with the words “You can never go where God is Not” Max Lucado

Today, I have that center and I am seeing, for just this little bit, how God can use me. Through these emotions I felt God calling me to read His Word. To really study it and focus on Him. I did that. I am doing a read the Bible through a year plan on YouVersion Bible App, plus a study with my husband and a study with some church leaders. He calmed me down, reassured me that no matter what happens with my in laws health, or the mobile home He is still in control. I need to focus on the goals He gave me in life, not my goals. The first goal is to put Him first in everything, and then to live my life so others can see Him through me. So, I will pray for my in laws like never before. I will pray for the people who are in the mobile home as they are in financial trouble or more. I will trust that God will bring the home for my husband and I when we need it, not when we think it is best. In all this I have achieved joy God can only give.

Outside sources

Where Is God?
We want to know — where is God when I hurt, or where is God when … Psalm 19: 1-2 tells us: The heavens declare the glory of God; And the firmament shows His  …
How to Seek Jesus Christ and Find Him
Stop seeking blessings and worldly riches and money from God. Seek the person JesusChrist. Go seek Jesus Christ now and you will find Him. Isa 55:6-7: Seek …
How to Seek the Presence of Jesus Christ in your Life: 6 Steps
Apr 11, 2019  If you want to find life in this dark world, then you can find Jesus. If only you diligently seek Him in prayer, he will personally guide you to truth in …
How do we find Jesus Christ?
If you have come to a place in your life where you would like a personal encounter with the Living God, Jesus Christ then all you need to do is pray the sinner’s …
How to find Jesus… – YouTube
Jan 4, 2009  Hurt, afraid, confused or just generally fed up with life? Jesus is the answer. Listen here to learn how to find Him. Message from Larry Beckett of …
Finding Peace with God through a Personal Relationship with Jesus …
Learn how to find peace with God through a personal relationship with Jesus … a short time, we ultimately find that the empty longing inside us always returns.
The Only Way To FIND Jesus – YouTube
Feb 18, 2014  My site at http://www.robertlyte.yolasite.com Jesus calls each and every person, to get to KNOW HIM and to come into a relationship with him.
How to Find Jesus in the Old Testament: part 1 – YouTube
May 28, 2018  In this series we will seek to understand how the New Testament finds Jesus in the Old Testament in order to learn principles that will guide us …
How to Find Your Way Back to Christ
Sep 20, 2016  How to Find Your Way Back to Christ, Rhonda Stoppe – Read more … us with a sense of peace, joy, and inspiration to tell others about Jesus.
Find Peace With God
The Bible says, “God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, [ Jesus Christ], that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life”  …