feeling unloved

In this chapter Jacob arrives at his relatives property and meets Rachel at the well. As he spends time with them he falls in love with Rachel. But when it comes time to marry her he is tricked and ends up with Leah. I am not really sure what was meant by saying Leah had bad eyes. Maybe that she was not as pretty as Rachel? Does not matter though because we see here that she is feeling unloved by husband

But God sees this, how she is being treated unfairly and He blesses her. The blessing may not be an easy blessing for her to live with. After all God cursed women with painful childbirth. Then raising all the children while Jacob is out in the fields. One thing that gets me though, if Jacob did not love her then why did make it so that she could have so many children? What was his thinking? I guess maybe it was that in culture back then they did not have a way to divorce yet. He was just doing his duty as a husband. 

Feeling Unloved by Husband

If he was just doing his duty just think of how devastating it was to Leah’s ego, her self worth. God knew she needed comfort. He also knew the bond between child and mother. To give her the love she yearned for, to show her that God sees her, He gave her many children. 

I know when I felt unloved by my husband, even by the world I yearned for a child. I felt like at least that way someone would love me. But, the truth of the matter is that kids are hard work! Giving birth hurts more than some of the worst physical pain that is out there. Then raising them to be responsible adults takes every inch of energy out of a person.

What kind of blessing is that then? It is one of the best blessings I think. I feel I need to acknowledge those who cannot have children though. I know He has blessings for you that are beyond what anyone could imagine. He has a plan for everyone who believes in Him. 

Feeling unloved by husband

Let’s go back to Leah though. She has not suffered through child birth and has all these kids to raise. I am pretty sure as she is human that at times she wondered if she could really make it through some days. She already was self conscious I am sure because of her looks and how Jacob complained about marrying her. Now her husband only sleeps with her out of duty and these kids are underfoot all the time. Even  resenting her as I am sure all kids go through those feelings at times. 

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feeling unloved by husband

feeling unloved by husband

Even through these struggling circumstances the Bible says God kept blessing her. He did not change the situation, maybe He even compounded it. But, because He had a plan and He saw she needed someone in her life to love her. He gave her child after child. 

What I take from this chapter is that sometimes God’s blessings can add more responsibility. When that happens we may turn to grumbling against God. But if we can be like Leah and see each and every new child as God’s blessing what better attitude could that give us. Maybe God has you living in some poor conditions. If we look past the circumstances and see even the small blessings can help make things more bearable. 

Are you able to look past your circumstances and see some positive. Something, some how see God’s hand is there with you still? If you need someone to pray and talk with you I am here for you. 

Outside Sources

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Obey

This chapter we find Abraham getting ready to sacrifice his promised son, his heir. I think about this command from God as a parent myself and wonder just how could this be? The thought of giving up one of my children because God told me to, I am not sure I could do it. But maybe because God gave Abraham Isaac in his old age it was easier for him to obey God. The thought that if God could do that, it is possible He could do it again.

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Someone climbing a mountain and words in the sky say believe+love+obey=victory in Yeshua 1 John 5:1-5
Obey

I think about my own life, how many times have I done what God says just to obey? So much of my life I felt like I needed to be in control, to know what, and how something will happen. I thought it was the safe way to live as so much of my life things happened that were out of my control.

Before my teen years I was sexually abused by a family member, soon after a neighbor boy tried to take advantage of me. In my teen years a young man also sexually abused me along with my first husband. When I felt safe and could move on from all that I met my current husband and major sexual issues got in the way again.

I got to the point that so many things out of my control happened that I had to control everything in my life. Obeying God who did not reveal His plan was out of the question. I knew God was real, I had the God desire in my heart. But I was too hurt and afraid to blindly obey Him.

Obey

But, how did I get from my total mistrust to being able to trust and obey God today? I would say that it was seeing how God chose me and provided for me. There were so many times in raising my three adult children we should have been homeless. There was a time my children should have been placed in foster care. While it is true the circumstances warranted I needed to place only one, the other two stayed with me.

In seeing how God protected and orchestrated things around us I came to trust God. I learned that no matter what I did He would make His work out. Because of that I came to believe that doing things His way would make His plan much easier on me and those around us. That in doing things His way I gained peace, knowledge, hope beyond my understanding.

Obey

Are you able to obey God? Or are there thoughts and fears keeping you from trusting that God has this? Is there anything you would like prayer for, to talk about?

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Be buried with the rich

This is a tribute to a man of God, and an example of faith and dedication that I was privileged to meet when Karen and I lived in Grayson County, Kentucky. His name was Joyner Lancaster, and I met him when I was a Gideon, and a member of the Grayson County Gideon camp. Joyner died very recently at the age of 94.

Joyner was always on the go when I knew him. He was active in the Gideon camp as long as I was a member. He was willing to do whatever needed to be done to get the Bible distributed to our county and to join with other camps for larger distributions, including one in Louisville, which was about 5,000 Bibles and New Testaments. He was committed to the cause of the Gideons. If you have ever stayed in a motel and opened the drawer to find a Bible. The Gideons place the Bible in numerous areas – schools, universities, hospitals, funeral homes, homeless shelters, prisons, and community distributions both locally and around the world. Last I heard, they had camps in 194 countries! This was the cause Joyner was committed to. In this, he was an example of faith. He was still active in the camp even at eighty-eight years old, and he still drove! 

And now, he is at peace, at rest, at a place of perfect contentment, joy, and love. Now he is with Jesus, the ultimate gift and reward. He is survived by his wife of 67 years, Aldeen. Prayers for her would be appreciated, I’m sure.

Rest in peace, Joyner. Thank you for your example.

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