gratitude

Gratitude Essay

As I prayed and thought about the post for today I wondered just how many ways, how many times can we write about being thankful? I thought I would start out with gratitude this week. What it is, and what it is not.

In researching the internet, you know the ever faithful “Google”. I find that there is a trend going around called “Positive Psychology.” I thought I would include some of what I found in this gratitude essay.

What is gratitude?

One article I found from Positive Psychology Program listed some definitions of gratitude that I thought may help us understand this elusive feeling. I know we all want the feel good, happy, pleasant feelings all the time and sometimes it seems they are so far away. So, let’s just see just how science today defines gratitude:

“if we acquire a good through exchange, effort or achievement, or by right, then we don’t typically feel gratitude. Gratitude is an emotion we feel in response to receiving something good which is undeserved” (Lacewing, 2016).

I like this definition because it seems to match the Bible. God gives us what we do not deserve. All of us here on earth are sinful, we do not deserve the strength, the health, or even to be alive. We do not deserve the hope of heaven. We deserve hell if anything.

Another definition for this gratitude essay is:

“an emotion that is typically evoked when one receives costly, unexpected, and intentionally rendered benefits, and is thought to play a key role in regulating the initiation and maintenance of social relationships” (Forster et al., 2017).

What happens when someone gives you something or does something you never expected? Does that help you feel good for that person? I may be struggling with this a bit though. I tend to let history cloud my gratitude when someone who has hurt me does something nice.

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a book opened to where the subheading says of Gifting, first line under that says way of expressing gratitude
an open book

I tend to use my marriage as an example a bit much lately. But it is what is on my mind all the time. I am trying to let God teach me to be the wife my husband deserves, and let God do the work He needs to do in my husband. But, here is an example of the past clouding my gratitude.

My personal experience for this gratitude essay

Just recently my husband bought me a coffee from a local coffee shop. Automatically my thoughts of the many times that he would insist on buying the expensive coffees when we are broke came to mind. The hurt, the fear of how we are going to make it.

What did not come to mind is all the times I expressed to him I needed more than just physical love from him. I needed to be appreciated, loved for who I am. I did not express gratitude that he thought of me, only me in buying that coffee. I let my hurt and pain stay and cloud my judgment.

That attitude did not help our relationship. My husband was making a grand gesture that he could do with our circumstances. I stopped myself I looked at him and said, “What I should say to you is thank you very much, I really appreciate that you thought of me.”

Final thoughts for this gratitude essay

You see, it is so easy to lose sight of being thankful. Even when a person is trying their hardest to do something nice. Something to say I know you are hurting let me do this to try to make up for it. Yes, ok a bought coffee will not make up for everything. But it is a step. I need to make a step in learning to be grateful instead of letting the past hold us back.

What about you? Do you have trouble expressing gratitude when someone you are upset with does something nice? Please share your ideas with us! Would love to have you join our community and join the discussion in our Thankful Thursday group!

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PTSD Symptoms

What Are PTSD Symptoms

(This is a very old post)

A couple of weeks ago I found out I suffer from PTSD. That my trauma’s started in my youth. Don’t get me wrong, I know my parents did the best they could. My mother is a very strong woman who did her best to do right by me and the family. My father admitted and he got help for his part in it all. After all, was said and done is a wonderful man now. This is not to talk about how bad my family was, it is to talk about how everything affected me and what are PTSD symptoms.

Do you identify with this video in any way? Please know there is help out there for you and I would love to help you find that. Where it started for me is being fed up with where my marriage is at and seeking Christian counseling. That is where I learned about what are PTSD symptoms with this video:

My trauma’s started early in life when I was a toddler I met my stepdad. I am not going to go into all the details that are not needed. Just to let you know it involved exposure visual adult sexuality then few later sexual abuse. I want to remind everyone. I am not trying to say my parents are monsters. They are far from that, my mom is a strong woman who did her best to protect me with everything that was going on around her. My stepdad had an illness that after all came out he got help for. I honor them for that!

But, because I or no one around me really understood how everything affected me I was left to struggle with the after-effects of everything. Which led me to many damaging relationships with men. Rape, sexual abuse, my anger coming out as abuse towards my first husband. Sexual issues in my current marriage. One thing after another right up until recently. I have about 45 or so years of living in survival mode to try to deal with.

What Are PTSD Symptoms and How To Be Grateful For Them

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a drawing of a woman’s back and she is holding her hair up with her hands. Words say PTSD seriously may be the death of me. The worst part is nobody understands how hard everyday is.

How to be grateful for all of this? I never thought I would put gratefulness with everything I have been through. I never dream I could come close to finding anything to be happy about ever. I lived with depression, pain, hurt, anger, fear for so long. I never knew any different. But, I am grateful for it all!

I am grateful for the experience because God uses all our experiences to His Glory. What a powerful thing it is to be used for His Glory! The creator of the world is wanting to use me with all my sins, all my pain, all my ugliness.

I am grateful for showing me what a wonderful husband God has given me. Even though my husband may have contributed to some of my trauma God once again is using that. He is using my husband and me for something wonderful. We do not see it yet, but we know God has a plan.

If you also suffer from PTSD or think you do, please seek help, professional help. You cannot do this alone. The place that God led my husband I to is Faithful Counseling

 

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