A Weight Problem or a Wait Problem

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I have struggled with being overweight most of my life.  I felt, like many of you, that no man would ever love me, unless I was skinny and beautiful.  I never dated in high school since I never had anyone ask me.

I would have dated in college, but I went to an all girls’ university my first two years and didn’t really have any man interested in me (no one asked me out) the next two years when I went to a coed university.

I wanted to be married. I searched and searched for someone to love me the way that I was and for someone to let me love them and be real with them, but no one ever was interested.

After graduating from New Orleans Baptist Theological Seminary and not being able to find a church position near my home in Mississippi, I saw an ad for a director of youth and children from a pastor in a small town in Alaska.  Wow!  I had wanted to visit Alaska for a long time, but to actually live in Alaska was beyond my wildest dreams.

While there, I once again had the desire to find someone for my life partner.  I answered ads in a local paper and went out with several guys, but no second dates.  I then discovered a magazine called “Singles Scene,” which was a Christian dating service based out of Tennessee.  I put my ad in there and began to get some strange responses.  (Guys who were divorced with children, guys who were 20 years older than me, guys who wanted someone to be there for them not for me!!)  Crazy!

Anyway, to make a long story short, I had to leave Alaska, came back to my mother’s home, and proceeded to try and find a job.  In the meantime, I discovered John’s personal ad in “Singles Scene”.  He said he was interested in ministry and loved children and could play the piano and sing.  Ding!  Ding!  Ding!  My interest was peaked.

John told me later on that he knew he was going to marry me from my first letter to him.  We started exchanging letters in January, met face to face in July, and was engaged in November (the story of how he proposed will have to wait, since I said I was going to make a long story short!!).  We did not exchange pictures until three months later.  It was not a top priority for how we looked on the outside by then, since we had gotten to know some of each other’s minds and hearts.

He has never made me feel any less loved, when I was at my lowest weight or my highest weight.  I had to wait 36 years to be united with my fit, my match, my soul mate, my second biggest blessing from the Lord.  He is the World’s Best Husband!!

Thanks for reading more of my story.  I love you!


  1. Oh Karen
    God blessed you both with the perfect partners in His time. He led you to someone who could share your wish to serve God. Your story affirms for me that God knows exactly what he is doing…lol. I’m thankful for God’s wisdom, love and foresight and for you and your hubby🌺🙏🌺

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