overcoming the obstacles

When talking about overcoming the obstacles of childhood – Here by the grace and plan of God, I am talking about physical and mental challenges. Today I will deal mainly with the physical challenges of childhood.

From what I understand, I really shouldn’t have made it to this point. As a child, I had a lot of lung problems. At one point, I had bronchitis and pneumonia at the same time. That nearly took me out. I definitely don’t have those problems now, but that was a problem in my young childhood. I was told that I nearly died when I was four years old. (I really don’t remember this, although I do remember eating a small piece of chalk at age four, thinking it was a miniature marshmallow. Not very bright!)

Of course being behind physically can affect the ability to function in school. I missed most of the first grade and actually flunked it, but they moved me on anyway. Where I am today could not have been imagined then, but then that is the grace of God, isn’t it? More on mental struggles, then and now, in the next post. Until then, may God prosper you in body, mind, and soul.

Pastor John


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Very old tabby cat with white markings

Meet Bootsie, the Wonder Cat! Bootsie is my mother in law’s cat and is close to 21 years old. That is really old for a cat! The other title I could have given this true story is “Who has believed our report?”, based on Is. 53: 1
Who hath believed our report? and to whom is the arm of the LORD revealed?” (KJV). Why does this scripture apply? Because I had believed the wrong report! I had believed the report that I heard in my head. I thought sure this adventure with taking Bootsie to the vet, was going to come out much worse. Not to be morbid, but I was not expecting her to make it through this trauma. She had thrown up the day before, and again yesterday morning. She was in Jackie’s lap, crying. That was the report I had stuck in my head when we headed over there to pick Bootsie up to take her to the vet. I was expecting to bury her, that she wouldn’t even make it to the appointment. Praise the Lord, I was wrong! (By the way, I just looked it up, and Bootsie, in human years, is 100 years old!)

Bootsie, the wonder cat shouldn’t be alive, but by the grace of God, she is. She was anxious to get out of that cage and get away from us after her ordeal – temperature was taken (no fever!), blood drawn, fluids put in her, and trapped in the pet carrier as we took her to the vet. She was glad to get out of there! The rest of the day, she stayed in Jackie’s lap.

To whom has the arm of the Lord been revealed? Yesterday it was revealed to us! We believed the wrong report, but God had a better plan and knew that the outcome would be much different.

We would do well to follow Paul’s admonition in Phil. 4:8 – “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

Thank you, God, for Your good report, and for working all things together for Your good. (Rom. 8:28)

Pastor John

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Just a short note as we enter in a new week and a new month. Also asking for prayers for me and for the site.

There are times I am overwhelmed by the needs I see around me, and the needs of this community. One, in particular, has been on my heart this week. The Lord is also challenging me to do things in Him, as He leads, and to do them with patience. I am weak in that area, and I know I am not alone. I want the Lord’s will to be done with this site, and I want to lead it effectively.  I want people to know they are cared for and supported. I can do that a little bit, but the Lord can do it completely. I want people to be closer to Jesus and get more into His word, something we all need to do.

Please pray for me as I get ready to substitute teach in my Sunday School class in a few weeks. Pray for the physical, mental, spiritual, financial, and emotional health for each site member. More specific requests are on the prayer wall. If you have forgotten your password, just let me know, and I will send you the password for the prayer wall and the memory wall.  Send all questions, comments, concerns, requests, and/or contributions to the prayer wall or memory wall to me at pastorjohnday@gmail.com

With love from the Lord,
Pastor John  

dating period definition

This point in my and my husbands relationship we are just getting to know each other. I guess you could call this our dating period. We did not have the willpower to stick to the Biblical dating period definition. I thought about it, I wanted to be stronger than I was in the past. I yearned to be respected, to be loved, to honor God in my relationship. But my old self was too strong, my old fears were still there. I did not follow a definition such as Christians.net suggest:

Does the situation I put myself in invite sexual immorality or help me avoid it?
1 Corinthians 6:18 says to “flee from sexual immorality.” We cannot do this if we are tempting ourselves through carelessness


My kids were still in Middle School. I had my twins living with me and my oldest in foster care still. My life was getting better, I had time to think, to breath. I could now focus on my twins rather than my oldest and keeping us all safe. He was in the care of people who were trained to help him with his diagnosis. The reason I did not work was not my disabilities at this time. It was my children. When I first moved to this West Coast State I tried working, but only found one babysitter that was willing to take on their behaviors. Few months later they became too much for her, she brought my kids to me at work and quit. I then had to stop working. This was before I placed my oldest in foster care.

dating period definition

So, bring in who is now my husband to this crazy chaotic small family of mine. I wanted my kids to like him, which at first they all seemed to hit off well. My husband really is a kid at heart in many ways. He likes many of the same things my kids did. That is the way to a single mothers heart, to win over her kids.

But, my husband and I started to make fatal mistakes early on. I let him spend the night. The first time I insisted he sleep on the couch. But my fears of him not wanting to stay with me were too strong. Then coupled with my husbands sexual drive, my stand of waiting did not last. What I did not realize is my husbands porn addiction and overactive sexual drive.

What I slowly learned from him was his past. He had been married before, got his first wife pregnant when they were both 17 years old. But, his child is another reason I felt God put us together. You see my oldest sons birthday is 2-22-92, my twins are 2-24-93, my husbands sons birthday is 2-22-94! It blew me away! There was no way that this was just a coincidence.

What I did commend my husband for is how he did his best to be there for his son. How my husbands whole family helped raise my new step son. But that does not deter what my husband admits that he did that messed up his first marriage. He cheated on his wife with her friend. After getting divorced he had a string of ladies in his history.

dating period definition

The thing is I loved him, he treated me better than any other man had. My kids seemed to like him and his son started calling me mom. I had a long history with men in my past so I thought who am I to judge his? But, I gave in sexually because I felt I needed to satisfy him so he would stay with me. My husband on the other hand had a craving for sex that was beyond what I could deal with. Coming to the relationship with this difference would cause major problems early in our marriage. But for right now we were just discovering each other and how to put our families together.

What did end up happening is my husbands best friends from a church he used to go to had a talk with him. Then the church we started to go to their pastor gave us an ultimatum. We either stop sleeping together or we stop going to his church. Our answer….6 months after meeting each other…..was to plan our wedding! He stopped spending the night together, but rather started planning our wedding.

I was so surprised that a man would honor me in this way. He was willing to respect me and just want to spend time with me without the obligation of sleeping with him. The problem was tho, his sexual drive. It was still there.

dating period definition

His family were thrilled to see we decided to get married and so were my friends. Everyone seemed so willing to chip in and help us have a wonderful wedding. My first marriage happened with a judge. I never expected to walk down the isle and have a real wedding! But everyone chipped in so we could have that. I felt so loved, so included. But even more distant from my biological family. I invited my parents, I understood why my real dad could not make it, he never had enough money. But my step dad and my mom not coming, that broke my heart. She told me that at her second wedding no one came, so I did not need them there for mine either. From my wedding on my in law family started to become my real family.

I wish that I could say like the fairy tales say, and they lived happily ever after. This was just not in the cards for us. Both of us struggling with our separate brain injuries, my special needs kids, and our individual sexaul sin issues. In the next installment I will explain why in our 13 year marriage we only lived together for one year. How his and my choices devastated our kids and our relationship for much of our marriage. Eventually we will get to the point of seeing how God is using all this for His glory to bless others and bring them to Him.

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Biblical Dating: How It’s Different From Modern Dating

Bible verses about dating and relationships

Oh the Deep, Deep Love of Jesus – by S. Trevor Francis 

This song speaks of devotion to Jesus, the Savior of the world. Mr. Samuel Trevor Francis was the son of an artist. He was born at Cheshunt, Herts, in 1835, and was a merchant in London. For more information about this song Mr. Francis, click this link; this link.

This song focuses on the characteristic of the love of God, found in Jesus Christ. If there was one scripture verse that captures this love, it is Rom. 5:8 – “For God demonstrates His own love in this: While we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.”

1 O the deep, deep love of Jesus,
vast, unmeasured, boundless, free,
rolling as a mighty ocean
in its fullness over me.
Underneath me, all around me,
is the current of Thy love;
leading onward, leading homeward
to my glorious rest above.

2 O the deep, deep love of Jesus,
spread His praise from shore to shore!
How He loveth, ever loveth, 
changeth never, nevermore!
How He watcheth o’er His loved ones,
died to call them all His own;
how for them He intercedeth,
watcheth o’er them from the throne.

3 O the deep, deep love of Jesus,
love of ev’ry love the best;
’tis an ocean vast of blessing,
’tis a haven sweet of rest.
O the deep, deep love of Jesus,
’tis heav’n of heav’ns to me;
and it lifts me up to glory,
for it lifts me up to Thee.


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